The Best Valentine Gift for a New Romance

The best Valentine gift can be extremely complicated when you are dating someone new. The length of time you have known the person will play a huge role in your gift-giving decision.

Men who are infatuated and trying to impress a new love interest have the hardest time. They are torn between buying something mind-blowing (i.e. pricey) and something that will not leave them wishing they hadn’t have if things don’t work out with the relationship.  Females have a similar problem; the nature of the gift can often send a wrong message.

According to some surveys over 36 million boxes of chocolates and 189 million roses are given each year as Valentine’s Day gifts.

The thing is, Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. The fact is there is a chance that you can do too much, and that is not a good thing. Neither would be doing too little. Finding the perfect valentine gift for her or him is a delicate balancing act that will drive you mad, and have you wishing the day was over and done with!

Here are a few pointers to help you with the dilemma of finding the best valentine gift for a girlfriend or boyfriend who's new in your life.

Best Valentine Gift for Girlfriend or Boyfriend New in Your Life

Okay, say you have only gone out one or two times. Planning the day is not expected to be a very big deal. It is perfectly acceptable to say, “Hey, Valentines Day is coming. How about we have dinner and catch a movie or something?”  If the other person seems reluctant, just schedule a date for another day. They might not be ready to “go there” yet. Sometimes a new person could still be smarting from a past relationship failure, so backing off is the best course of action.

Okay, so the date is scheduled, now you need to buy a gift. Do not be alarmed at this stage in the relationship if a small token of your esteem will suffice.  Good gifts for Valentines could be a Valentine’s Day card, a collectable or even a gag gift.  If you are the only one who shows up with a gift, do not take it so hard. Gift giving is just that, all about the giving: when you give without expectation of a return. If you don’t think you can get over not receiving a gift, then maybe you should just not give one at all.

If you have been dating for a while, the entire script goes through changes. Even if you are not sure that you have met the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, there is a valid expectation of receiving a Valentine’s Day gift.

You should ease into the conversation and not say something like, “Valentine’s Day is coming. What are you going to get me?” This is rude, of course, and sounds very materialistic.

Try the subtle approach and solidify date plans before talking about gifting. This too can be tricky, so watch your step. If he/she wants to go the traditional route and you aren’t into it, then how you handle the negotiations can be the difference between having a love interest and being left home alone.

How things go for you on that first Valentine’s Day can tell you a lot about how the relationship will proceed. Giving your loved on a gift is a wise choice; it shows you put a little thought into it. If he is into sports, give him tickets to a local game. If she likes baubles, give her something like a necklace or earrings. The point of the holiday is that you get together and enjoy each other. If you are planning to buy tickets to a movie, play or concert, make sure it is something you both can enjoy.

Best Valentine Gift: An Engagement Ring?

Finding the best Valentine gift becomes a lot easier when you have been together for a while. The biggest bullet you may have to dodge after dating for a long period of time is whether to get engaged on Valentine’s Day or not.

Although it sounds romantic, what if something happens and the deal falls through? And guys, will you regret buying the most expensive Valentine’s gift of all? Will you have ruined Valentine’s Day for years to come?

A lot of couples opt for getting engaged on Valentines Day, but before you do this, think it through. The best day to get engaged is when the time is right. That day, for the right person, will be equally romantic.

Liani Widjaja is the owner and author of www.coolest-gifts.com, a blog on finding the perfect, original gift to suit your budget.

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